One Friday afternoon, my single coworker was telling me about all her plans for the weekend which included trying out new restaurants, meeting friends, going for walks or hikes, and going out to listen to live music. When she asked what I was doing, I said: "Nothing. I have a boring life."
As soon as these words left my mouth, I immediately regretted saying them.
My life or weekend (for the sake of topics) was different now. I am not a single gal in her 30s. I have a partner and toddler. My priorities are different and I hate to say it but my life does revolve around my child's. My life isn't boring, it is still vibrant but in different ways. I wanted to tell my coworker the following (but she had already walked away):
I HAVE NEW ADVENTURES EVERYDAY
These might be real or make believe but I am happy being turned into a frog and jumping through a pond interrupting a bear and pig's picnic. Why not?! Seriously, who gets to do that?!
I HAVE ON THE SPOT DANCE PARTIES
I don't have any dance skills or rhythm for that matter but it is ok. When there is a good song on the radio or in the a movie I've seen a 100 times, you can dance like no one is watching (other than your kid.)
I HAVE PICNICS WITH NEW FRIENDS ALL THE TIME
One of Grace's favorite things to do is to have pretend picnics at home with her stuffy friends. I'm game because I don't have to worry about eating all carbs or just ice cream for breakfast. It is literally my pretend dream diet.
I LEARN SOMETHING NEW ABOUT MYSELF ALL THE TIME
I didn't know how patient or impatient I can be. I learn to react differently and understand what my trigger points are. I also learn there will always be things I never thought I would HAVE to say, like: DON'T LICK THE SHOPPING CART. So gross.
I GET TO SEE AND TRY NEW THINGS
Literally, there were tons of "must go" places in Calgary that I have never been to. I can say I crossed a lot of them off now because I want be more adventurous and to see new things. One of these places was the Hanger Flight Museum. (Picture above.)
I GET TO WATCH SOMEONE EXPERIENCE THINGS FOR THE FIRST TIME
As of late, my favorite thing to watch is her giggles when we float in the bathtub. I would hold her and gently put the back of her head in the water. She loves the feeling and giggles.
To the moms that feel your life is now boring, it isn't. It is just different now. Embrace it. Love it.