Holidays are a great time to get together with family and friends but can also lead to some unnecessary stressful times. As hosts, we often stress over what our house looks like, what experience we want to provide to our guests, and what they can or cannot eat. (Dietary restrictions are becoming more common!)

We often get bogged down by the details and sometimes the wrong details. Our friends and family won't be looking at the state of our house, they will be looking at us. (Or they should be!) We don't have to stress being great "hosts" to our "guests" because family and friends aren't guests, they are people we love and love us!

Here are some alternatives to having a traditional stressful holiday gathering:


This can be at your house or at a local coffee house! For the latter, this is fairly stress free. You are in the comfort of your own home, it might be decorated, you are just having coffee and maybe tea (if you are feeling extra fancy). If you dare, you can ask your guest to bring some snacks to share over coffee. This gathering is super chill and likely won't take long. You can have a break and then get back to getting stuff done.

If you chose the latter option, perfect too! You know you will have some awesome coffee and snacks, you won't have to worry about preparation or clean up, and they might even have some festive music playing the background!


This activity can be doing a batch meal prepping, cookie exchange, or volunteer activity. If you are stressed about the state of your house, you don't have to worry. Some of these activities will make it look even worse, while some you all will be too busy to notice your surroundings.


For me, this is the easiest and fanciest way to gather with friends and family. You just have to find the date and time that works for everyone. (I know, this could be stressful but focus on the end result.) Find a family friendly restaurant that caters to many dietary restrictions, preferences, etc. and you are good to go. Just dress up (or not), go out to eat with friends and family, and enjoy the time together!