Questions I get asked often are: 1) Do you want another kid? 2) When are you having another kid? 3) Why not have another kid? You made such a cute baby already!
My answers often are: 1) No. 2) Never. 3) Exactly, why try to replicate?
My parents are from China, where they had a one child policy. You would think that arriving in Canada would give them all the reasons in the world to have tons of kids but no, they just had me. When I was old enough to understand, I remember my mom being asked why she isn't having another child? The question usually accompanied the statement: "If you don't have another child, Monica is going to be so lonely." Her standard response was: We don't want more kids. She will figure out how to entertain herself. Her answer sounds harsh but really to the point. (For the record, I was taught at a very young age to entertain myself and not rely on others to entertain me.)
To some extent, I think hearing her responses throughout the years have influenced our decision to be in a "one kid club." (Trust me, this club doesn't have a lot of membership and the ones not in this club often look or judge the ones who are.) So, what are my reasons for being in the one kid club?
WE DON'T WANT MORE KIDS
Quite frankly, I was scared the entire time I was pregnant. You just never know what could go wrong and how far along you are when things go wrong. While I had a pretty good pregnancy, I was scared all the time, The emergency c-section I needed, didn't help either. Honestly, I don't think I have it in me to go through all of this again despite the awesome reward.
WE CAN PROVIDE THE BEST FOR ONE KID
Yes, we can afford to have more kids but by having one, my daughter gets the best we can provide her right now. All of our resources go to her right now. We don't have to budget between several children. She literally gets it all. Although, she is only three, I know we can afford to pay for her university tuition aboard and have me live there with her, cause she isn't leaving my sight. (She doesn't understand/know this yet.)
WE DON'T HAVE TO DIVIDE OUR LOVE
Before she was born, I didn't know I could love someone this much. After she was born, I couldn't fathom how I would divide my love between several children. My close friend told me when you have more children, you don't have to divide your love because your love multiplies. I have no idea how she does her math. I don't buy it. Currently, I love giving all my love to my daughter. I wouldn't change this for anything.