Every mom with more experience than you will tell you "me time" is absolutely necessary.

I never really had "me time" before Grace was born because I was never really one to pamper myself. I always had a job and a side business so that didn't leave a lot of time for anything else. At the most, I would get a hair cut at the beginning of wedding season and a pedicure if I had planned in advance to wear sandals when working a wedding. (Rarely the case.)

After Grace, I didn't want to be away from her. I lugged her wherever I went and considered it to be my "me time" with a tag along. I later learned that doesn't count as me time. My focus was never on my physical, mental, and emotional well-being. I was constantly caring for her needs.

Once I changed my mindset and terminology from "me time" to "self-care," I think it made a huge difference for me. Last year, I started to pay attention to when I needed self-care and usually waited too long before I did it. Baby steps. As one of my resolutions this year, I decided that self-care should be done on a regular basis and it doesn't have to be labeled as pampering. It can be anything that brings me joy even if it looks odd to other people. It doesn't have to be expensive, considered pampering, or even requiring me to leave the house.

Some things I do for self-care include:

  • Getting a haircut (Thank goodness for Moe of Hair booth. He is truly a hair god.)

  • Paint my nails at home (immediate gratification and no appointment necessary)

  • Eat a family sized bag of Lays Smoky Bacon chips on my own

  • Organizing some area of my house or my life

  • Going to Costco on my own and walking down every single aisle

  • Blogging in bed with Netflix on the side (just for listening)

  • Watching some sort of chick flick/sob movie/revenge movie (really depending on my mood)

  • Eating treats in the pantry on my own

  • Crocheting (this is a new hobby)

Regardless of the activity, as long as it brings you joy, you should definitely schedule or find some me time. It doesn't have to be extravagant or time consuming. Just practice some self care and self love from time to time.

Picture above is from last year's Calgary Stampede. I went out with a girlfriend to watch Usher in concert and I ate that ENTIRE onion bloom. I felt 50% gross and 50% happy.