I learned of this term for the first time almost two years ago. It was introduced to me by Kiki of Pursing Pretty. I followed her on Instagram and was inspired how she always looked good on a budget as a mom. We met up for coffee and my biggest take away was "to never be in a mom rut." I learned to put some effort into how I look and feel (without going to the salon every month, having facials daily, and mani/pedis constantly.)
Here is what I have learned to do for myself and stay out of the "mom rut":
PUT ON MAKEUP EVERY DAMN DAY
I have a five minute makeup routine and I put on my makeup every day even if I don't think I will be leaving the house. I'm not putting it on for anyone (not even the UPS guy.) I put it on because it makes me feel pulled together.
WEAR SOMETHING SPARKLY
I'm not talking about wearing a bedazzled shirt (necessarily) but having some bling on me instantly improves my mood. My go-to is a pair of sparkly earrings that one might think is reserved for attending a wedding. Honestly, I don't care. I could be in jeans or yoga pants but having some bling on my ears makes me feel more posh.
HAVE A SIMPLE WARDROBE
Have pieces of clothing you feel great in, are comfortable, and makes you look (or feel) great! Nothing too fancy as you might be stuck at home all day or just running to the grocery store. But you know what these articles of clothing are, whether it be a great fitting pair of jeans, a t-shirt without holes in it, a nice long cardigan that covers your butt after eating chips all night and day (speaking for myself primarily.)
HAVE A GREAT HAIRCUT
I don't take great care of my hair. I have a massive skin care routine but my hair really just gets put into a #mombun or #funbun 95% of the time. Seriously, no joke. One day, my daughter said she wanted to look like me and what that meant was to have her hair in a bun. #crying.
Enter my hair stylist, Moe of Hair Booth. I swear he groans when he sees me coming in with my mom bun. I don't even try to hide the mess. After an hour, he magically transforms my hair with shape and movement. (FYI - if your hair doesn't move when it is down and in the wind, it is time for a hair cut. Speaking from experience, of course.)
WEAR GOOD UNDERWEAR
Personally, I don't own any sexy underwear. But having and wearing some supportive underwear really goes a long way. I always feel better when things are sucked/tucked in the right places and the girls are up and looking forward. (Sorry, TMI.)
Lastly, STAND TALL like your mom always said to you and you will likely say to your kids. When you aren't slouching you are feeling more confident with whatever the day brings you. One day, my daughter had a major meltdown because I cut off her watermelon rind. No problem. Stood tall and ignored her. The next time you catch your reflection or catch yourself slouching, straighten up that back**! You got this mama!
**For days when you really DGAF, just let it be. Don't be too hard on yourself.