Sometimes it is hard for us to believe our kids love us because they often don’t listen, do the opposite as they are told, and act like turds. Every since my daughter turned four years old, she has turned into a different person. A person that is argumentative, questions authority, and questions the logic in rules. Basically, she turned into a grown up overnight.
The past couple of months has been the worst ever because she started to whine and cry when she doesn’t like what she is told to do. Even if the request is for her to put on socks before we go out. Each time I want to scream, I try to remind myself that her brain is growing, she is trying new things (fighting back), and she actually loves me. I tried to remind myself of all the sweet things she does to show me her love.
This post is written as a reminder for myself now (as I am in the thick of it) , to reference later when her behavior is being questionable again, and for other moms that might be going through the same thing and screaming “WHERE DID MY LITTLE ANGEL GO?!”
Unless we are super rich and our children have their own bank accounts already, it isn’t really possible for them to order something from Tiffany’s for something nice for us. They also don’t know the five love languages or have a lot of experience to show their love to us. Here are some signs that my daughter (and other children) show their love to us.
THEY ASK TO PLAY WITH US
Yes, they seem to ask and want to play at the most inconvenient times and when we are most busy but the part we really should be focusing on is the fact that they want to be around us and want to do something/anything with us. We really have to treasure this time before they turn into teenagers and are too cool for us.
TALKS ABOUT YOU TO OTHER PEOPLE
My daughter likes to introduce me to strangers and tell them random facts about me. Most of the introductions are like this: This is my mommy. Her name is Monica. She can fix anything with tape. Regardless of the introduction. Her wanting to tell others about me shows she is proud of me and this is a sign of love for me.
SAD TO SEE YOU LEAVE
When my daughter started Chinese school, she tried every Saturday morning (when she had class) for 10 weeks. As I dropped her off, I could hear in the hallway, her crying and screaming “Mommy, don’t leave me.” I felt awful every single week and felt like I needed to buy her a unicorn every week. When we would talk about the crying, she explained she didn’t want to leave me, she wanted to be with me, and she loved me. (Don’t you want to buy her an unicorn too?)
HAPPY TO SEE YOU
On the same note, when Chinese school ended and I went to pick her up, she was delighted to see me. There were hugs and kisses and she genuinely was happy to see me. If she was a cartoon, there would be little red hearts coming out of her.
SHARING (ANYTHING) WITH YOU
My daughter doesn’t get a lot of sweets on a regular basis so when she does you would think she would keep them all for herself, but she doesn’t. I remember one time, she had 3 m&ms chocolates and she gave one to me and and her dad. We were shocked. Sure, we teach her to share but I see her sign of sharing as a sign of her love.
DRAWINGS OF YOU
I think it is pretty cool when my daughter comes home with several drawings of me or of me holding her hand. She is just learning to draw so all the “people” kind of looks the same but I love each and every drawing of me she does. For me, each time she was drawing, she was thinking of me and putting all her effort into drawing this gift for me.
TALKING AND TELLING YOU EVERYTHING
After a long work day, the last thing I want to do is talk. So instead of talking, I listen to my daughter tell me about everything that happened in her day. She will tell me what she ate, who was fighting, who made toots, and whether she made a poop. There is no filter and she just wants to tell me everything. I’m totally ok with this because again, she is sharing her world with me and that is a sign of love.
SNUGGLES WITH YOU
My daughter has no concept of time. I tried to teach her that weekends are for sleeping in but she doesn’t get it. Every weekend, she crawls into my bed really early in the morning to snuggle with me. She will pretend to sleep and then give me random kisses and hugs. When she is done, she tells me she is hungry and wants breakfast. (My cue that snuggle time is over and get back to the kitchen to service her.) Sure, she had a motive behind her snuggles but I will look pass that.
HUGS AND KISSES
Easiest way they show us love.
SAYING I LOVE YOU