MUST HAVE ITEMS FOR ROAD TRIPS WITH CHILDREN

MUST HAVE ITEMS FOR ROAD TRIPS WITH CHILDREN

Does going on a road trip with your children cause you anxiety? It used to for me too. After each road trip, I learned something and was able to prepare better. This blog post shares my list of must have items for road trips with children. Some of these items I bet you would not have even thought about!

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WHAT I DO FOR SELF-CARE

WHAT I DO FOR SELF-CARE

Every mom with more experience than you will tell you "me time" is absolutely necessary.

I never really had "me time" before Grace was born because I was never really one to pamper myself. I always had a job and a side business so that didn't leave a lot of time for anything else. At the most, I would get a hair cut at the beginning of wedding season and a pedicure if I had planned in advance to wear sandals when working a wedding. (Rarely the case.)

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POTTY TRAINING FOR SUCCESS

POTTY TRAINING FOR SUCCESS

I was super nervous when it came time to potty train my daughter. I have heard horror stories of poop being smeared all over a bedroom or bathroom, or just accidents at the most inappropriate time or place. Some of my friends told me potty training nearly killed them and they were not being dramatic. Other friends tried to tell me the benefits of potty training (saving tons of money on diapers) and told me to focus on that.

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STRESS FREE ALTERNATIVES TO HOLIDAY GATHERINGS

STRESS FREE ALTERNATIVES TO HOLIDAY GATHERINGS

Holidays are a great time to get together with family and friends but can also lead to some unnecessary stressful times. As hosts, we often stress over what our house looks like, what experience we want to provide to our guests, and what they can or cannot eat. (Dietary restrictions are becoming more common!)

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NEVER BE A JUDGING MOM

NEVER BE A JUDGING MOM

It took me years to build up an immunity and to not give a crap about what others say or think about me. My friend's mom once said to me: People that don't like you will always have something negative to say about you. Since they already don't like you, why do you like them or care? Good point. I don't have time or mental space for these people.

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GOING BACK TO WORK AFTER MAT LEAVE

GOING BACK TO WORK AFTER MAT LEAVE

I dreaded going back to work after mat leave. I hated:

1) The idea of leaving my baby with someone that will spend more time with her than me.

2) The fact that I need to work and it is nice to have money.

3) The guilty feeling for being away.

I. hated. every. thing.

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DOES HAVING A BABY AFFECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

DOES HAVING A BABY AFFECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

I have been asked this question a couple of times now by new moms. My honest answer is: Absolutely. Having a child is essentially adding another person into an existing relationship. A threesome may sound fun but not when the third wheel is an infant needing around the clock care and don’t have any words in her vocabulary yet. You can’t split things 50/50, you now have to split things three ways. These things includes finances, space, time, and of course love.

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WORK AND HOME– STRUGGLE OF WANTS

WORK AND HOME– STRUGGLE OF WANTS

I am a working mom and one of the lucky few that really like my job. I have been at this job for 9.5 years and I still enjoy coming to work every morning. The job itself and my coworkers are great.

After every long holiday or long stretch at home with my daughter, I get giddy when I start counting down to going back to work. People usually dread the first day back in the office. I drive to work with rainbows and hearts shooting out of my car. Don’t get me wrong, I love her and I love spending time with her.

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FIRST TIME OUT IS HARD ON MOM TOO

Some days my daughter is a "nightmare dressed like a daydream." Yes, I just quoted Taylor Swift. Her lyrics really spoke to me this one particular day.

THE EVENT

It was a Saturday and over the course of three hours, Grace had on five occasions deliberately do what I told her not to do two extra times with a smirk on her face. She was just over 26 months old. and she smirks now. A couple of the things were minor and I chalked it up to her being really excited at gymnastics with her friends. Then, there were unforgivable and inexcusable behavior.:

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BREASTFEEDING IS REALLY HARD

One day out of the blue, as I was working, my glass water bottle broke. I was shocked but even more shocked when I started to cry hard, correction, ball my eyes out over…a…water…bottle. Once I pulled myself together and off the floor, I asked myself what the heck is going on with you? It can’t be hormones because you can’t continue to blame hormones 17 months after the birth of your daughter. It can’t be because I am sleep deprived because I haven’t sleep in 17 months. Then, it finally dawned on me. This water bottle was significant to me at a significant time.

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SPLITTING DUTIES 50/50 AFTER BABY ARRIVES

SPLITTING DUTIES 50/50 AFTER BABY ARRIVES

Just two weeks after her baby was born, my friend told me her husband isn't helping and it wasn't fair that she has to do all the work. Most of us have felt this way at some point. Some of us still feel this way. The reality is: it is never going to feel fair, it is never going to be fair, and it is likely fair. Allow me to elaborate on how I broke this news to my new mom friend. Keeping in mind, she just had her baby and is a teeny tiny bit emotional due to her hormones being all over the place.

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HOW TO DO LONG ROAD TRIPS WITH KIDS

HOW TO DO LONG ROAD TRIPS WITH KIDS

I haven’t traveled to a lot of different places but I sure have logged a lot of hours driving to places. Each year, we drive to Vancouver with…only…bathroom breaks when we get gas. Yup, no over-nighters, just straight driving and stimulating conversation along the way. The last part is a total lie. I’m usually asleep.

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WHEN NOT TO BE A HERO

WHEN NOT TO BE A HERO

I have always considered myself a strong and independent woman. After I found out I was expecting, naturally, I had strong assumptions that nothing would change and I would continue being a strong woman. Pregnancy kicked my butt big time. Hormones made me an emotional wreck; I was indecisive; and I was insecure. There was so much I didn’t know and so much I could not research. As I was choking back my tears as I was talking to a friend (and recent dad), he gave me the best advice ever: Don’t be a hero. There isn’t a need to be one.

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