As I enter the 41st year of my life, I really had to take some time to reflect on the past year. Not so much on my accomplishments but what I have learned in the past year. I only started to reflect the last couple of years and I found it really puts things in perspective. Some of the things I may have dwelled on and gotten quite upset over turned out to be not so bad. Some of the blimps I had in the year were also learning opportunities or blessing in disguise!
Here are some of the things I learned in the past year:
WE HAVE TO DO WHAT WORKS FOR US
My spouse loves the outdoors and camping. I don’t like being dirty, being in the sun, or getting bitten by bugs. I used to go camping with him before we became parents because it was important to him. After we became parents, he really wanted to take us outdoors. I was less excited about it but I also saw the value of teaching our daughter the value of being outdoors. Year after year, we never went camping with her. We had many excuses:
When she was 1 years old, I didn’t want her crawling around in the dirt at the campground;
When she was 2 years old, my spouse thought our existing trailer was too small and we needed to buy a bigger one;
When she was 3 years old, we (mostly my spouse) never committed to planning specific weekends to go camping. Hence, we were never able to get a campsite;
When she was 4 years old, I suggested we just always camp at the same place so we knew what to expect and to minimize the amount of planning we had to do.
We still haven’t camped with our daughter yet.
During one of our day trips to Sylvan Lake, I floated the idea of purchasing a property at a specific place for us to go to as a getaway. I obviously wanted to buy a place in Sylvan Lake but left the location to my spouse as he was the outdoors person. Happy to report that late last year, we bought an RV lot with a park model trailer in Sylvan Lake. We call it our summer cottage and are excited to start having some quick trips to be close to a lake. I’ve learned we just need to do the outdoors in a way that works for us.
I STILL MAKE STUPID AND BAD DECISIONS
This one definitely stung a lot. Early in 2019, I made an investment in myself and my business which turned into a nightmare. I should have followed my gut and not do things based on trust. I am usually very careful in trusting people but this time I let my guard down and paid for it. I was embarrassed I was duped and I had made such a bad decision. I kept thinking I should have known better and done better. I then realized that this was probably the lesson and reminder I needed to carry on to live my next 41 years of life. (Asians live a long time I’m told.)
FRIENDS WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU WHEN YOU NEED THEM
Real friends will always lend a helping hand or a shoulder for you to lend on when you are whining excessively. Even if you haven’t seen them in over a year due to busy lives. They know you and they won’t judge you. They will just be there for you to lift you up when you need it most.
MY BODY TAKES A LOT LONGER TO BOUNCE BACK AND HEAL
I was literally sick from May 4, 2019 to June 13, 2019, with a cough that wouldn’t go away. I lost my voice and missed a lot of time from work. Each day I felt like I was going to through hell and back. I took two rounds of antibiotics and was allergic to the second round. After close to 30 days of not recovering from a stupid cough, I went to the doctors again and learned I had bronchitis and maybe starting to develop asthma. I had to take another round of antibiotics. At the beginning of July, I got shingles and was out of commission yet again. I’ve learned that my body is taking way longer to bounce back and I really need to take proper time to heal. I was getting rundown and not resting enough. Moving forward, I need to remind to take better care of myself because I definitely don’t want to waste another 40 some days feeling like crap.
IT IS ALWAYS OK TO CONTINUE TO DREAM
Even if I live a really long time, arguably, I’m at the half-way mark of my life. That said, I am not ready to stop dreaming big. On the contrary, I think it is time for me to dream bigger. I don’t think it is ever too late or too old to start dreaming big. In order to focus on my what my dreams are, I will be taking a break from blogging. I’m not sure if this break will be a month, longer, or indefinitely but I know I need this time to recover (health-wise) and refocus. Stay tuned on what is next on the horizon for me!